My Trip To Oz And Back:

A True "Retrospective" Story Of My Relationship With A Person With BPD

Since this thing is so long (approximately 50 single-spaced typed pages), I've split it into a number of smaller segments--index below.

To begin with the first segment, click  here.

To get all 28 segments at once, click  here.

A.  When We First Met
B.  The Difficulties Begin
C.  The Difficulties Continue
D.  How I Felt
E.  More Issues--Concerning Your Behavior Towards Me
F.  More Issues--Concerning Your Behavior Towards Others
G.  How I Felt, Continued
H. Chris Begins To See The Light
I.  The More Things Change, The More They Stay The Same
J.  The Beginning of The End
K. Post-California: The Final Straws
L.  The Major Issues (As I See Them)
     1.  Our Different Family Backgrounds
     2.  Anger
     3.  Self-Esteem
     4.  Intimacy and Trust
     5.  Victimhood
     6.  Control/Power
     7.  Responsibility and Rescue
M.  What About Mary?
N.  How I Felt, Continued
O.  Summary
P.  Your Responses/Retorts
Q.  Some Final Thoughts
R.  About This Letter Itself
S.  Conclusion--Life Goes On

Epilogue and Links



Chris:  Author of letter, formerly involved with Terry
Terry:  Recipient of letter, a woman with borderline personality disorder
Sandy:  Terry's ex-lover
Mary:  Chris and Terrys' couples counselor
Alan:  Chris' therapist
Ellen:  Terry's sister
Garry:  Terry's brother